Category: Singles Spit Swap
have you done it what do yu think of it is it stupid and if you do it our you cheating
whether I have or not is confidential ..I think in certain circumstances it's acceptable and if you would prefer to have real sex with the caller then yes you are cheating..
aall rightat least you shoot from the hip<grin>
I see no point in it, and I've never been there. I think it'd be disloyal yes.
That's me no subtletly what so ever..smile
Ok, Yes I've done it. I was cheating with or on nobody. I didn't have a partner, and neither did the other person involved at any time. What you do in that respect is perfectly up to you. if you do it whilst in a relationship, and the other caller isn't your partner, then yes you're cheating.
I have also done it, while not in a relationship. The other person involved was not in a relationship either. I consider it cheating if you or the other are in some type of a relationship with someone else.
I disagree. I've done it, and I was in a relationship, and still am. I didn't get any particular joy from it, but I think what makes it cheating is if your hiding it from your partner, which I never did and never would. I think what is cheating is up to the couple to decide.
phone sex is a lot of fun I think, especially if it's with some one you've already made love too in real life so you know just what it's like. However i would consider it cheating if you were in a relationship with some one else, because even though you're not actually having sex with the caller, you're thinking about making love to them and also talking about it with them.
i'd definitely consider it cheating, and no i've never done it.
It's always seemed a bit pointless to me, kinda like a starving person calling an italian restaurant and asking them to read the menu out loud. I imagine it'd just leave you even more frustrated, but each to their own.
I think both phone sex and cyber sex are cheating if you are in a relationship with someone else. You should be focusing your sexual feelings on your partner, and if you are interested in sex with others, then get out of the relationship.
oi, lol. Wasn't gunna read this topic, an not really sure why I am, but, you all seem to reckon that this would only happen with someone you're not with? Just goes to show how people's minds work for the majority... lol.
i love phone sex have done it many times but don't think its cheating especially if you know your partner who you are with is cheating on you.
which is not a good relationship Lol haha
LOL, it certainly is not good if your partner is already cheating. *grin*
Hehe, yeah Danielle, I noticed that too. no-one's considering phone-sex with their partners? Why is that?
is phone sex really helpful in those, um, more stressful times? seriously; never done it so am just curious! :)
It can be a great reliever, if you're stressed, need that release, and don't want to do it alone. but I guess for most alone might be enough. lol
I've never done it but would be willing. It's just that I like to be held and be physically close to my partner after sex and think I would feel lonelier than ever after phone sex and all I had to hold was the phone.
Well for me, phone sex doesn't do anything for me except make me even more lonely. I could never get myself to orgasm so maybe that was the problem. I too like to be near my partner during sex and holding on to the phone just doesn't comfort me enough. hehehehe And yes, I did it with my fiance and would never consider doing it with another person!!!
*sexy*
I like phone sex, and I really don't think it's cheating.
that is sthe only problem i have with it, not being close to the person afterwards, that part is horrible. But if you have to spend time away from your partner for some reason it's good to do.
Resonant I love your anaolgy..smile
personally @ don't think I would like it unless I really get into is, which would be hard since I don't really like the phone anyway - so awkward to hold & x would be hard to er, tatisfy myself with one hand. Besides the uncomfortability it's just embarracing since they a6e not their - voice chat is even worse since I feel like a raal loser when on that anyway.
James
I've done the phone sex thing too, and it can be lots of fun. Unfortunately, if you, or the other person is in a relationship, I'd consider it cheating I think. One thing about phone sex though, if you have not met the person yet, you can get caught up in the person's voice, and what you think they are like in person. I've experienced this myself, and then met the person face to face, and god what a let down! So my advice is to be real careful of that.
Yes, I've done it. I do consider it cheating, though, if either you or the other person is involved with someone. But like someone already mentioned, it can be a great stress reliever. There were also times when my ex and I were still dating that we would have phone sex, mainly because one or the other of us would travel occasionally. It seemed to bring us closer together even though we were a thousand miles apart.
Uh sorry about the poor quality (even poor considering my usual typing accuracy) I was doing that on a flimsy braille keyboard. I meant to say I think it'd be awkward for me especially since I don't like just talking there to a phone or a mic on the pc especially if there're other people in the house which there usually are, and I'd also find it hard to jerk off with one hand.
James
CC why did you post that message then tell me to read it? do you think I am cheating? is that what u are hinting? let me know cuz if u say yes i'm out
Well phone sex is definitely better than cyber. At least you have a hand free to do whatever you need to. Harder typing with one hand. Plus if your using a mic on the computer or hands-free set then your set to do whatever you want.
phone sex??? i've never tried that one but for some reason. it gets more fun and interesting if the couple are both creative in describing how they are. you know. fun fun fun. if your at describing things then thats fun.
phone sex??? i've never tried that one but for some reason. it gets more fun and interesting if the couple are both creative in describing how they are. you know. fun fun fun. if your at describing things then thats fun.
Well whether I have or not is irrelevant but to me personally yes it would be cheating because I feel it could be a personal way to connect with someone else disregarding the distance between.
with a partner, such things can be great.
justwanting to throuw out an idea..... phone sex on something like skype is also possible....
I must say, I have never had skype or vt sex, I have had phone sex however, and no, I don't think it is cheating, but oh well, I am seriously outnumbered in that concept.
Hey! At least it's safe sex! Better than going it alone, but safer than pulling someone randomly because you want to get laid.
I've always found it easier with complete strangers though, because for phonesex to work propperly, I find you sometimes have to maybe allow your perverted streek a free rain, and everyone has that so don't pretend otherwise. Talking about a deep dark fantacy is one thing, trying to persuade your partner to try that fantacy out is quite another, unless you have a partner who is as broad-minded as you happen to be which doesn't happen all that often really.
When you love someone, sex is equally as much about the mental and physical contact with each other as it is about the act itself, but with a stranger, it's purely and simply about getting off, and I truly don't see anything wrong with that, but I'd rather be safe and play around over the phone or voice chat than run the risk of catching some nasty pestulant disease!
I think people with a high sex-drive are more likely to understand my post to be honest, and again, there's nothing wrong with having a high drive at all! It's how you're made. But for people like that, being single and not getting any actual sex is desasterous to say the least, and playing on one's own gets old after a while, so the whole phonesex thing allows you and the person you're doing it with to open up completely about those sexual desires we all have, but keep repressed 99 percent of the time, not ordinary desires like oh I need some sex, but, more along the lines of fetishes that might be considered repellant by some, fantacies about threesums, morsums, I donno, whatever float's one's boat really.
If you have phonesex with a stranger on a chatline for example, chances are you'll never meet that person, they don't know who you are, where you're from, they know nothing about you, and you can be whoever you want, and you know before you connect with them that they're interested in the same kinds of sexual activities that you are. If you find that their desires are too obseen even for you, you can just hang up and find someone else! There's no pressure to say the right thing, not to say the wrong thing etc. But with your partner, if you opened up about a particular fantacy to them and they were shocked by it, that could really mess things up for the relationship.
I do think however, that phonesex with someone you know personally, other than your partner is cheating. I'm not really sure what I think about phonesex with a stranger however. I mean, if that were to be considered cheating, then getting off watching porn would be also, or looking at dirty pictures. I suppose it would depend on the circumstances really, and if you never chatted to that person again, then all they were is a means to an end, just as you would have been for them. Again, nothing wrong in that at all, as long as you both know where you stand.
Like I said, I haven't made up my mind about this however, and I've never had phonesex with anyone, stranger or otherwise while I've been involved with someone, I haven't needed to! Ahahahahahahaha! I've always been lucky enough to find partners who are as adventurous as me!
But hmmm. I imagine it would be frustrating for those people who truly love their partner, but know that discussing their really deep dark fantacies might lead to total breakdown of the relationship because gorgious and wonderful as their partner is, they perhaps just aren't quite as open-minded. In those circumstances, I think I'd rather my partner found an outlet for those desires which didn't involve anyone they knew personally, and didn't involve meeting anyone for real, or even looking at the person they were doing it with. I know that there's a booming business in Webcam sex now, that is, both watching and listening to each other, or watching one way at least, and I definately would consider that to be totally wrong. Phonesex, for blind or sighted people alike is always in the realm of fantacy isn't it? Yeah sure someone might have a horny voice, but they might be a complete troll in person! LOL! Putting a face to the voice however, is taking it too far, unless it's porn, but with porn you don't have any personal interaction, you cannot influence what happens in any way!
Well, just my thoughts anyway, rambly though they undoubtedly were.
Matt
Well wish I could find that right girl to have phone sex with. When I have tried it it seemed like I was doing a lot of talking. It should be some what equal in the conversation.
ok, first phone sex is the shit, and i do it a lot and anyway the reason i orgasm each time is i rub my clit and moan and really imagine myself having sex it beats cybering.
i think there is nothing wrong wit phonesex. If you are in a relationship, then for crying outloud, tell your partner. If both agree its okay then why the hell not? IF not then well I guess you'd be cheating if you did so. I look at it like this. Partner isn't around and you need it, so why not? Of corse if you do it without your partner knowing, its wrong. But as long as you are open and honest that it could occur before hand, and discuss things with your partner, then as with anything else, you know before hand its okay to do or not. This goes the other way around too. Your partner wshould be open and honest with you about these things, no surprises that way. I say we all get horney as hell and damnit sometimes you need a little lovin!John
Mmmm, lovin. Indeed we all do need lovin, and honestly you will be surprised at the amount of open-minded people if you look hard enough. Smiles.
I've never had phone sex, well, not two way, anyway. But I'm not adverse to it though! In saying that, I'd only ever consider having phone sex with my partner, for example if we had to be away from each other for a period of time, and we were horny. Then I can't think of anything more amazing than having phone sex with them! But it shouldn't be used as an alternative to sex... that's a bit wrong! I suppose I'm very lucky that me and my gf are rarely apart, and not really for any length of time, which makes the phone sex idea a bit null and void. Although I would love to try it! And I would have by now, if my family environment at home was a bit more private and I didn't think I'd be over heard!
Phone sex with someone who you don't know or care about is pointless, go download a porn, then you don't have to worry about weather you were bad or the other persons feelings, you care about the person then it can be good..
I'll take phonesex over porn anyday.
See I am the opposite, I think everytime I have phoneSex with a guy, or at least most of the time anyway, I have to do most of the talking. Guys get shy, or something... Who knows, but that is how it is alot with me.
Only did it once and I did the talking. Think maybe I need more experience. LOL
Phone sex can be fantastic. To echo another post, everybody has some deep dark fantasies and fetishes etc whether they know it or not, and this is an oppurtunity to let that cat out of the bag for a while. And, if the call doesn't go the way you'd like, you can always just hang up and find somebody else. I have done it many times with a couple of people but a lot of girls won't make any noise, even when they cum. This is kind of a let down as the audio bit of it is all you get! Anyways, is it cheating? Hmmmm. Strictly speaking, no it's not. Is it healthy to do with somebody else if you are in a relationship? Probably not unless you're partner has a low sex drive or whatever. But in that situation, I think it'd be very important that you only have phone sex with someone whom you will never meet!
Yes, if you are in a relationship with one individual and you engage in phone sex with someone else than it is most certainly cheeting, just as having actual intercourse or internet sex would be. I don't necessarily think that it is wrong to indulge in such a practice if you aren't paying for a stranger to accomidate you, and are instead in a serious longterm, long distance relationship with someone and you don't have other options. Not that I can speak from experience, but I would think that the real thing would be far more satasfying. rofl Ok, I'm finished preaching and I'm getting down off of my soap box now and going to have a chocolate icecream soda.
I would never have phonesex. What good is it anyway? I mean I would not judge anyone by if he does it or not - but personally I think it is senceless.
Well, since you haven't tried it, you can't understand/appreciate it. For the ignorant, here's a brief run down: You basically get each other in the mood and then move onto getting each other off. If both people are really into it, it can be very satisfying.
as i have said pnhone sex is the shit. I do not think it is cheating at all especially if your getting pleased and if you talk to your partner about what happens.
Again, you don't know unless you try...
I have tried before, and I don't mind it, but yes, all in all, the real thing is the best thing. However, if you are in an ldr, it helps to keep that part of you stimulated.
Yeah. It is nothing close to the real thing but it can be a whole lot better than just getting yourself off normally though. A lot of girls won't try it though for some reason which is a shame really. It's fun and if someone is open and enthusiastic, you can really make each other horny and it can be pretty damn intense!
More girls should give it a try really...
If any of you want to give it a shot, I might be interested so get in touch. (No lads please.)
Experimentation is all well and good, but I believe, at least for now, that phone sex, just like internet sex, and true intercourse is best done while in a relationship, not purely for the sake of experimentation, and not just on a whim. Ok, I'm going to go hide behind our big old over stuffed armchair now, so that when all of you start screaming, "Get the prood! She must die! Or be initiated!" and throwing random assorted fruits and vegetables at me, I'll be safe.
Hahahaha, funny, but yeah. Hmmm, it seems to me, that this person that is constantly asking for phone sex is very very desperate.
Desperate? Hmmm. Perhaps you misenterpret this person. i think I'd call it wanting to explore and try new things. It's exciting and when it goes well, it really goes well. That's just my take on it. Everybody has differing opinions however...
I do find it a bit disturbing that some one would be so willing to engage in phone sex with strangers, just for the sake of a bit of pleasure, and the thrill of exploring. But then again, one must consider the fact that although they may not approve of it, you can't get an STD or become pregnant from phone sex. I feel very strongly that I would never do such a thing unless I was in a committed relationship with someone, but if I had to worry about my future children, or my current friends, I'd be much more comfortable knowing that they were only engaging in phone sex, and not the real thing. Aside from possible physical complications and consiquinces, sex, in any form, carries emotional implications as well. Ok, I'm going back behind my chair, and taking some power bars and a blanket back there with me. If I keep shooting off my mouth and sharing my opinions so freely, it's only a matter of time before the prood police locate and bombard me with tomatoes.
Phone sex is NOT the same as cybersex. At least in phone sex you can hear them etc and be lying in bed or something and dont have to be typing on the computer, phone sex can be very good if ur good at acting hahaha
hahahahahahahaah, i only just saw this thread, but I absolutely love erin's take on it.
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It's always seemed a bit pointless to me, kinda like a starving person calling an italian restaurant and asking them to read the menu out loud.
Excellente, bella!
Well I've only just seen this thred too, but I have to agree with my jess on this one. The only way I think it's cheating is if you're in a relationship and the person you're with doesn't know. If you have their permission to do it, and y0our partner can do it with other people too, I think it's perfectly acceptable. I also tend to agree with guitargod, it can be fun because different girls have different views, things they like and don't, same as guys. And some have certain fettishes and fantasies they're into that you'd never know about otherwise.
I don't think it's cheating because all you're doing is stimulating yourself and talking to someone who is doing the same, whether it's with your partner or otherwise.
There ya go, that's my take, and anyone out there who wants to discuss it further probably has the intellect to private message me. lol. I'll leave it at that.
Its crazy. I've done it, but what is the pleasure, I feel even more lonely after it, I love the physically closeness of being with someone
Now, that is a healthy response. People who are, or think that they are fulfilled by phone sex are either shallow, or kidding themselves. Being left more empty than ever, and thus more lonely seems like a very healthy and more human response to just having had phone sex with someone with whom you are not in a committed relationship. Oh, and to what shark said. If your partner knows that you are having phone sex with someone other than them, and is all right with it then, they are either, very insecure and desperate to keep you, even if that means not truly having you, or they don't really love you, and thus don't care what exactly you are doing and with whom. I would never allow my partner to do such a thing, and would be both worried and offended if they were to inform me that they were perfectly all right with my engaging in phone sex. Enough said. I think I need to get a bigger chair to hide behind. Those prood police can be rather ruthless.
I agree with the last post. I can't see the point of having phone sex if somebody has got a partner. I could understand it if they have a distance relationship and do it with each other but what's the point of doing it with strangers? It would be either because they are not satisfyed with each other or got bored or something.
I agree partly with heather. Phone sex I've done it with my partner ahile i was with him and dmaned well think it is cheeting especaially when that skype and text is all a couple has. Outside of my relationship i've had phone sex too, and I don't know sometimes I'm lonely afterword but i wouldn't be able to have phone sex with someone if the call was only for that I've also had no other sex physically so maybe once that happens i won't find it as stimulating but it is a releaver in a way and is a way of sharing yourself with someone. there is my two sents
I've never had phone sex, I would try with my partner, but I do think it is cheating if you are with someone and have phone sex with someone else. Ta-da.
It is my opinion that phone sex and cybersex in a relationship is cheating under two circumstances. A: Your partner does not know about it. B: Your partner does know about it and doesn't approve of it. And it is most deffinetly not a good thing to do if you haven't discussed what, (if anything) is okay to do with another person. I believe that open comunication is the fourfront to makeing a relationship work. If one or the other does not comunicate that this is what they'd like to do and just does it, then that's wrong. Now on the other hand, if both parties are okay with it then why not? Its a way for relief.
I don't think phone sex or cyber is cheating if you are not ever planning to meet and sleep with the person you are doing that with or if it's a stranger. I see it just as if some one was watching a porn or looking at a dirty mag. Nothing wrong with it if you are not getting feelings all mixed up in it. Have I done it? for me to know. To me cheating is when you take it to the physical. I mean it's not like they re reaching through th ephone and grabbing you. it's all in your head and you take matters into your own umm err hands lol. So not cheating in my book
I don't see the point in it, either, and agree with Erin's take on it. I feel, though, that if it's a long distanc erelationship and will remain that way for a long epriod of time, then ok, that's away to be with your partner, but wuldn't yu only end up wishing they were with you instead?
Hmmm, what the hell did horny people do before the internet and even before phones? Do you suppose they sat down with their quill pens and wrote long torrid letters to each other?
Lol umm I think I read some place that they did just that haha. And just a note I am sorry for posting and bringing up an old topic. I didn't even come on the board directly I saw the topic wile looking at some ones profile and so thought hmm I'll put my two cents. Should of looked at the date written but didn't so blah anyway laterss
Never done phone or cyber in my life, I can imagine it, but never done it. Can imagine phone sex, but not cyber.
I hear ya, Bridgit. My thoughts exactly. Still though, always keep the lines open.
Well phonesex is fun. if both people are single, then why the hell not. And I do have to echo guitargod Cam on the point he made. also, different girls have different voices, and different ways that they cum. for me it's always been interesting to hear them. And I don't do it because I'm desperate either. I do it cuz, well, I can? And if it's offered to me, why the hell not? So ladies, start offering! you never know what I might say. anything is better than mrs. palm and her 10 daughters. she's a little too used for my liking these days. lol
Phone sex, ick, yucky.
Just wanted to bring this topic back up to the top so sdmassageman will see it.